This has been the month of the heart! How is it going?  Have you paid attention to what is happening in your heart? This has been quite a challenging month for me!  It holds many happy and sad memories and anniversaries of death. Life is like that if you have a history of loss. Thankfully I know to allow and connect to express sadness but also joy! The tools of the Grief Recovery Method® and HeartMath® help me move through challenging days and know that while I’m in the hard days that clearing is coming. I know it doesn’t always feel good to have bad or sad days but if you can begin to see that a range of emotions is normal and natural as a human being, the more you can just allow yourself to move through them.

 

 
The Institute of HeartMath has released an amazing video program that describes their work – the science, the tools and techniques, and their mission. It’s called the HeartMath Experience and you can purchase it here if you’d like to know more – it’s an amazing 9 chapter video course!
If you would like to join in community to do some HeartMath work together I have a couple of events coming up! The first is a virtual mini-retreat called Embody Heart. We meet together for 2 hours through a web-based platform, create meditative space together, and teach you tools and techniques to take into your life. See more information here.
I also host a monthly event called Coherence Hotspot – a gathering of people interested in raising the vibration of the planet.  I share some of the science of HeartMath® and we do work together for personal resilience, center, and balance for your own health. By connecting together it creates a strong healing field of energy – not to be missed!  Our next Coherence Hotspot is schedule for March 14th and you can find details here.
 

 

And finally to the grief recovery bits – if you found that Valentine’s Day brought up some unhappy memories, or if, like me there are other reasons for some challenging days I’d like to address some thoughts about grief.

Grief is:

  1. The conflicting feelings following the end of, or change in, a change of familiar pattern or behavior.
  2. The lost hopes, dreams, and expectations when a relationship changes or ends.
What if, since you were a child, your father sent you flowers every Valentine’s Day, but now he has Alzheimer’s, so isn’t able to? Isn’t that a change of a familiar pattern or behavior?

What if, after your last break up, you thought you’d find a boyfriend and finally have the perfect date for Valentine’s Day, but you’re still single? Isn’t that a hope, dream, or expectations that didn’t come to fruition?

What if, every Valentine’s Day you think about your ex-wife and miss planning romantic Valentine’s Day dates? Then realize you thought you’d be spending the holiday together for the rest of your lives? Isn’t that grief?

What to do if you feel sad and/or bad habits to avoid feeling have escalated:

  1. Be aware. If you notice you are out of the moment, thinking about the past, acknowledge it.
  2. Tell the truth about yourself. If you are sad, say so. Find a loving friend with whom you can share your honest feelings with.
  3. Get in the moment. After telling the truth about what is preoccupying your thoughts, see if you can get back in the moment by focusing on what is in front of you.
  4. Be honest. Ask yourself if there were things you wish would have ended different, better, or more. If so, you might be incomplete with the relationship you are thinking about. Until you get complete with that relationship you capacity for happiness will be limited.
Ask for help – I am here to help! If you would like to learn more about my philosophy and how to work with me click here.